An aspiring writer, astrologer, and creator. Freelance photographer. A gardener, traveler, and all-around witchy weirdo.

I’m a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon and Leo Rising… if that means something to you, awesome. If not, that’s ok too. I’ll tell you what it means. I asked my buddy, Chat, to write a little summary, and he nailed it.

“You’re basically sunshine with depth: you walk into a room warm and confident, but you’re also wildly intuitive and can clock a vibe (or a lie) in 0.2 seconds. Emotionally you’re brave, blunt, and big-picture - like, you don’t do small talk, you do “what’s your life’s purpose and why are you avoiding it?” You’re charming and diplomatic, but if someone crosses a line you can politely eviscerate them with words. You love hard in practical ways (you’ll hype you up and fix your life), and you need relationships that are real, honest, and mentally stimulating. Fun, fiery, soft, and secretly intense - in the best way.”

I really feel like Chat killed my bio, but if you want a human to tell you more about me, take it from my buddy, Jon. I’ve known him since I was in 7th grade. I asked him to imagine he was about to introduce me to a friend of his… what would he tell them about me to prepare this person? How would he describe me so this new friend would have an idea of whether or not we would hit it off. His response is one of the most beautiful gifts I’ve received in my lifetime.

I felt seen. 🤍

So, I want to share it here to better prepare you for your new friend… me.

“First off mystery friend I’m trying to convince, I don’t know why you’re questioning my judgment…you know me better than that- I would not recommend someone unless I just knew. 

But…. If you need to hear it again, in more detail, with more adjectives, here you go. I’ve known Melissa for many years. From our first time meeting I was captivated by her willingness to be silly and have fun, but also be thoughtful and love loving and being loved well.

Even through seasons of life when every honest human is plagued by insecurities, she has always found a way to ultimately push through and play to her strengths, displaying a confidence that attracts…not in an arrogant or condescending overcompensation but with a genuine desire to be meaningfully connected to others. 

She’s creative, loyal, fiercely independent but not aloof, compassionate, ambitious, funny, spontaneous, adventurous, did I say loyal, would do anything for a loved one in need…and maybe even an unloved one in need…. intelligent, articulate, thoughtful, values quality time, values people who take responsibility for themselves and the outcomes of life over which they have some control.

She is a great fit for someone who is considerate but not passive…if you are willing to love (platonic or romantic) with intentionality, consideration/anticipation for others’ needs, humility and willingness to own it when you get it wrong and work to make it right, she will readily meet you there.

She’s not Mary Poppins, and just like everyone, can have some rough edges when she observes others making what she considers or knows to be stupid, selfish, or immoral choices…her independence in general and frustration with passivity, duplicitousness/dishonesty can lead to disgust and a lack of respect…not that this can’t be overcome with owning it, talking about it, and engaging a plan to improve, but it won’t go well if you habitually engage in this and then gaslight or gloss over it…

She was raised in church, she believes there is more to life than live/die/gone…if you’re a straight humanist or nihilist with foolish notions of no eternal nature to existence the match won’t work. However, she can accommodate a variety of spiritual perspectives, so long as they’re ultimately honest about the reality of there being something far greater than anyone of us individually in which we all live and move and have our being.

She is lovely inside and out. Anyone willing to lay aside their own ego and selfishness as their primary motivator in life and has the privilege to encounter her sees that. 

Which is why…knowing that you, mystery friend, are just such a person, I said what I said.“